I feel as tho u give really good advice, so I was jst wondering if u could help me out.. im 18 and I haven't kissed a boy yet, let alone really touched one, I haven't even held hands w a boy. I feel so utterly left out and degraded almost bcos people are experiencing so much more than me and are open to this whole over world yet I haven't at all. All my friends say it isn't a bad thing,, yet theyre done stuff! also id find it super unattractive from a boys view :-/ sorry for ramble x

Your friends are right that it absolutely isn’t a bad thing. And it’s also not an uncommon thing either, despite how it might seem when your closest friends have “done stuff”. Also I promise that boys don’t find that unattractive, but even if they did, you damn sure don’t need to be putting pressure on yourself to be a certain way just for boys. Any guy who would look down on you because of your inexperience is a fuckboy and not worth your time. 

I have so many friends and acquaintances that were older than you before their first kiss or first relationship, and I have friends and acquaintances that are in their 20′s and still have not had any significant romantic interactions. You are not broken, you are not unattractive, you are not weird.

You need to value yourself as a person inside and out, and expect others to do the same. Your love and affection is not a commodity with an expiration date. 

- Erika

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