What to do when you're desperate for love?

i got a job at a gay bar when i turned 21 (i’m straight) and managed a ‘straight’ night at a lesbian club a few years later. 

i met, and dated a lot of amazing women (i’m still friends with some). working in a fast-paced, high-energy environment where you’re exposed to so much diversity will get you out of your shell, fast. it’s something you won’t learn in school. 

i took a couple of speech/oral communication classes in college (passed them both); that shit didn’t even compare to getting on stage at the gay bars on karaoke night & singing / entertaining a crowd of wild drunks. 

it’s scary. really fucking scary. but the magic happens when you put yourself out there - and experience life. it’s one reason i don’t spend much time online (i’m actually allergic to EMF)… because i’d rather be out there meeting people face-to-face.. 

so back to your question: what to do when you’re desperate for love?

my answer: get a job as a server or work at a bar.. you’ll learn to be proactive when it comes to getting what you want. the experience will help you overcome approach anxiety. i promise. you won’t have to depend on dating apps / social media to find someone. you could easily meet someone at a coffee shop, bookstore or in the parking lot (done all three).

here’s a video you should check out: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5HbYScltf1c

hope that helps. cheers!

- rob

p.s. experience. experience. experience. experience trumps everything. experience new people, places, and things.

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