My SO and I closed the distance after two years, and after two months, we can't figure out how to get along. We fight literally every single day. I'm ready to just go back home at this point. :( Suggestions? Has anyone dealt with this?

Oh lord, I’m sorry to hear that. Unfortunately it does happen, there are many people who had an amazing relationship before closing the distance and then things fell apart once they were together all the time. Sometimes compatibility when apart doesn’t necessarily translate to compatibility on a day to day basis. One thing to consider though - are you two living together now? Because you have to think about the fact that going from an LDR to literally being together every moment of every day is quite an extreme change in the dynamic of the relationship. I know it often feels like after being apart that long that living together is the natural next step…but that’s not always the case.

If you want to potentially save your relationship, you have got to give each other space. Your relationship was unconventional for two years, it’s not always going to work to suddenly force yourselves into a conventional relationship. There is nothing wrong with having some time apart. Time apart gives you a chance to be individuals and miss each other. Every relationship is different and you need to suit the dynamic you have, not just what fits the “norm”. Give yourselves room to breathe, talk about the root causes of your fighting, and go from there. If you both give it time and effort and you’re still unhappy in your relationship…then it might just not be the right relationship for either of you. 

- Erika

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