Basically, my ex partner broke up with me via text message on Monday after he left me last month in the house we both leased to "find work" as when we moved interstate he only worked for the first six months and the remainder I have been paying for everything. I am in our house, with all the memories and his stuff while he is back home with his friends and family still not working. How do I get over this? I am stuck here for two months before I can move. I feel alone and my depression is back :(

do you have wine? good. pour yourself a glass & drink away. after you’ve finished, i want you to think about him - think hard & feel every emotion that bubbles to the surface. Feel them all, let them devour every single fiber of your existence. you will scream, you will cry, you will break & you will want to die…. just keep feeling… feel everything. do not fight, just surrender. allow the old you to be completely consumed. once you’ve become numb & there’s nothing left but a blank slate; i want you to write down everything you want in a perfect partner. be very descriptive. how tall is he? what color hair? what kind of job does he have? how old is he? does he love animals? after you’re done w/ ur list go to the supermarket & treat yourself to your favorite ice cream. if ur not an ice cream person then get something else. you need to reward yourself for having endured & overcome such a shitty situation. this is ur little private victory & u are celebrating (i will celebrate in spirit w/ you). i want u to carry that list with u all the time. review it every day. you can add more to it as you go. having this list on u will help u to notice men who possess those traits/qualities. after you’ve got ur list & purged & celebrated, i want u to contact ur landlord & tell them the situation. tell them if there’s anything they could do, if not ask them if they could ding his credit for a 30 - 60 day late (he doesn’t deserve good credit). then i want you to either donate all his stuff or sell it on craigslist. get rid of everything that reminds u of him. everything. you are starting fresh… i don’t want u to hate him though, i want u to acknowledge that he gave you a gift - the gift of independence. the gift of self-reclamation. remember this: there is nothing more beautiful than two strong, independent people creating a life together. you are gonna grow from this. you are gonna become more dependent on yourself, you will learn to meet your own needs & not rely on others. and if you plan to have kids in the future.. then remember this as well: YOU DO NOT WANT TO HAVE KIDS WITH A DEADBEAT. tattoo that on your forehead. bc it’s the worst way to bring up kids. again, carry that list with you at all times, feel the depression & just remember that you are growing. your future family will thank you for having overcome so much for them. it’s gonna be ok. it’s gonna be ok. it’s gonna be ok. you are loved. ~rob
p.s. you are loved. i promise
p.p.s. turn ur place into an air bnb or rent out the room for two months to make some extra $$$
p.p.p.s. never forget…you are loved & it’s gonna be ok. i promise

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