How do you get past fear in moving forward and change in life, relationships, goals, failure.... how does one gain self confidence they lost in another person?

fear - it will always be there. always. it will be there waiting for you in your 30′s, 40′s, 50′s 60′s, 70′s, 80′s, 90′s & all the way up until you fuckin’ die. there’s no avoiding her. but where others see a stop sign, you must see a sign that says ‘proceed with caution’ (unless you’re drunk then run through that bitch). you have to keep going in spite of it. but how? you must give yourself permission to suck donkey ass in everything. and i mean everything. the more you try/do in life… the more (likely) you’re gonna fuck up & the more self-confidence will spring from those experiences. here’s the thing… my self-confidence didn’t come from reading & thinking about it. it came from participation. i don’t believe in passively watching life go by… i believe in being an active participant, a starter, a performer. the world’s a stage, you have to be the greatest performer you can be. just remember that life is one big experiment. the more experiments you run, the more results you’ll get… here is what i would do if i were in your shoes :

create a fake survey (make sure the questions are funny) and print out a bunch of them. go buy a few clipboards & pens & put them in your backpack and head down to your local mall. walk around and find the cutest girls and ask them if they’d be interested in taking your fake survey. tell them they have a chance to win a new iPhone 7 or something. this experiment will skyrocket your self-confidence. i know…. because i did something similar as a joke inside a japanese market to meet shy japanese girls a long time ago (back in 2000/1ish). one of the questions was, who would win in a fight: sailormoon or goku? i got quite a few giggles. anyhow, after running that experiment i was no longer shy of talking to foreign girls. it also helped me later down the road when i started promoting my own night at a lesbian club & helping other friends with their nightclubs. 

hope that helps. ~rob

p.s. if you do get a number, tell them it’s a fake survey but you’d be happy to call them back to invite them for free coffee or something. good luck

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