I feel like I'm trapped. I've been in a relationship for almost 5 years with a man who has anxiety and I've been happy to be his anchor but for the last 6 months I haven't been happy in the relationship and we've been encountering more and more problems that we can't fix. I feel like I need to end the relationship but I'm so fucking terrified of what that's going to do to him, and even if I do manage to do it, we actually work together. We are only two desks apart. I have no idea what to do.

i feel bad for the guy b/c he has anxiety. it’s not something you can just cure with the wave of a magic wand… at this point, you have to realize that there’s not much you can do for him. he might feel better b/c you’re around but you’re not gonna cure him. i’m sorry but you’re just not. so you have to decide if you want to stay & continue being his mother or to move on with your life. if you stay then you’re only anchoring his current behaviors. and he won’t have any motivation/desire to change or to seek help. if you do decide to walk away…. then i’d look for a new job as well. if you’re gonna close the chapter of that book then you want to close it completely. look, you can’t save everyone. you just fucking can’t. you will only kill yourself if try. the only person you can save is yourself. so do that. save you. trust that he’ll figure out somehow. if he doesn’t then oh well. that’s life, it fuckin’ sucks (not for everyone). there’s a lot of amazing shit inside of you that wants to come out. you just have to put yourself in the right environment, be around the right people & you will bloom - and someday some hot/amazing/brilliant guy will see all of your beauty and he will walk up to you and pick you. and you will be happy, forever. this is your story, you can choose who you want in it. choose you for now. ~rob

p.s. psychedelic therapy / MDMA treatment could help him

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